A tale as old as time: the jealous bridesmaid, the over-opinionated family, and everyone else who thinks they can plan your wedding better than you can.
We have ALL been there, but you don’t have to deal with this. Do not let anyone steal your thunder. I want to add to your thunder. You only get married once so LET IT THUNDER, OKUR?
Wedding planning has turned me into an organizational psychopath, an IT professional, a customer service specialist, and, of course, a full-blown therapist. I have dealt with some crazy scenarios involving overpowering/overbearing family & friends. It hurts my heart when I have an upset bride who wants to change her wedding vision and vendor choices because of someone else’s opinion. Trust me, I get it. You want your favorite humans to enjoy your wedding day as much as you will. How do you get what you want and make everyone happy?
#1: Have that stomach-turning conversation
Okay, it may not be stomach-turning but it is definitely nerve racking! You need to sit down that person and/or people and have the conversation. This is your wedding day and you need them to accept your decisions & choices. Sit ‘em down and shut ‘em up. No, just kidding, be super friendly, but remember you can’t go around this step. Sorry! You don’t have to be rude, instead you can follow the next step below to make them feel reaaaal good.
#2: Make them feel appreciated
You deeply care about and consider their ideas and opinions because you know that they CARE about cha. Make sure you let them know that. “Thank you for your opinion- I will definitely consider it.” Bam. Done. You aren’t agreeing to use their hot pink paper lanterns in your elegant all white wedding, but you’re getting them off of your back. Remember, you need to consider their feelings as well as respecting your own- and you’re doing just that! Go you, you’re killing it 😊
#3: Keep them included
A lot of times, people feel the need to drown you in their feelings and opinions because you are not listening to them. Keeping those essential people involved in the wedding will make them happy which will make you happy (or happier than before). Do not think you have to invite them all wedding dress shopping or to your catering tasting, but think about the smaller aspects of the wedding. You can have someone call everyone who did not send in their RSVP on time (aka 45% of your guest list), plan out décor for the rehearsal dinner, learn and find the specific type of flowers you want in your bouquet for you to send the florist. If you allow people to assist in smaller aspects of the wedding, it will make all parties to be calm, instead of a ticking time bomb (see what I did there).
In all seriousness, this is your one wedding, your one shot to create an event that directly represents you and your fiancé… make it everything you have ever dreamed of. It is very easy to be swayed by those around you, but at the end of they day this is YOUR day. My biggest fear in these situations is that you look back on your wedding day and it is nothing like you had imagined. Yes, we could do a badass vow renewal down the road, but NOTHING WILL COMPARE TO YOUR WEDDING DAY. I actually know someone that could help you with a vow renewal down the road, and your upcoming wedding right now, if you’re interested 😉
Talk to you soon!
This is my boy, Shorty, stealing his sister’s thunder. Her name is Jennifer and it wasn’t her birthday, we just party every single day like it is.