Hello beautiful people.
This is the moment you have all DM’ed me about. A Wedding Planner’s Wedding Day: Part 2, coming atchu right now. Here we go.
If you haven’t yet read part one, please click here to read. I think it’s a decent way to spend three minutes of your day. We are all entitled to our own opinions though. In part one, I showed you my own wedding day to the army man of my dreams, Stefan. In this proceeding blog post, we will talk about my own experience and after thoughts of my own wedding day The good, the bad, and the ugly.
Aside from the obvious, here is what I liked:
- Being organized and ahead of the game. While most couples are stressed the days leading up to the wedding, I had everything taken care of and we partied every single day leading up to the wedding. We had the time to spend time with our family and friends from out of town every single day because everything was already completed and ready to rock and roll. That is what a wedding is truly about- spending it with the people you care about. I made sure we were able to do just that. I ended up being bloated AF in my wedding dress from excessive alcohol consumption, but we made some great memories that week.
- Stress free & drama free planning and wedding day execution. While it was such a huge day for Stefan and I, it was also a huge day for our families. We constantly kept our family and friends included with different tasks leading up to the big day. We wanted everyone to know that we loved them, and allowing them to input ideas and handle different wedding aspects made everyone feel important on our wedding day. Nothing crazy- calling those who had yet to RSVP, picking out invitations, floral suggestions, picking out dad’s tuxes. Not everyone had “great” opinions, but thanking them for their suggestions goes a long way.
- THE FOOD. For those of you curious, Deitman’s Catering has the best turkey dinner of all time. It is sooooooo delicious that our wedding meal was basically thanksgiving dinner in June. It was amazing and we were all *stuffed*. Ha ha. We didn’t follow the typical western PA traditions (stuffed cabbage, rigatoni, pierogies, cookie table) and did what we wanted instead. Guests sure did love it, but even if they didn’t I would tell them to shut up and enjoy their free god damn dinner.
With that being said… what would I change?
- Way before the wedding day, I would go back in time and try on more wedding dresses. I think my dress was the 4th dress I tried on. While I absolutely loved it, I always thought I would be in a strapless fit & flare with an obnoxiously poofy bottom. While I still chose a fit & flare, mine had straps. The back of the dress did not allow me to wear my hair how I want aka all down and curled. Take the time to do what is true to you, ladies & gents. Also, consider the conditions of the wedding and your comfort, both of which are very important. If it is an outdoor wedding in mid summer in Texas and you buy a long sleeve ballgown, probably not a good idea. Most brides have their wedding dresses on for around 10-12 hours on their wedding day. My dress was so heavy that my shoulders and back were sore for days after. Also, at one point at the wedding I almost cried because that is how bad I wanted to take the damn thing off. I was SO uncomfortable.
- While I have a large family, as does Stefan, I wish I would have cut the guest list. We allowed our parents (aka my dad) to invite friends, which quickly turned into dozens of extra guests. Extra guests that sent in RSVP’s. Extra guests who didn’t show on the wedding day. Extra guests who we spent money on for table linens, centerpieces, dinners, drinks, and so much more. We may have overcrowded the venue a little bit, so it was frustrating to see empty tables from people who were invited that didn’t show. For my next wedding (that’s a joke), I would only invite family and close friends. If you haven’t talked to them directly in the past year, THEY DO NOT NEED TO BE INVITED TO THE WEDDING.
- I wish I would have known that you cannot be 100% prepared for everything. I thought that I had myself prepared for the unexpected. I thought because I was the most organized and ahead of the game bride that I was prepared for it all. I had my wedding day emergency kit that I had spent literally $200+ on, everyone that I ever met had a copy of my wedding day timeline, vendor contact info, plus their personal responsibilities, and every single detail figured out. You cannot prepare for the unexpected *say it again for the people in the back*. The day before the wedding, Stefan went to get his tux and he couldn’t even fit into the pants. My dad had two left shoes on, two DIFFERENT left shoes on. The 7 y/o ring bearer was given a dead butterfly. We forgot our bouquets for photos. Stefan ripped my dress. My mom spilled a glass of red wine down the front of my dress. There are some things that will occur and did occur that you cannot prepare for. You NEED to have someone ready to handle all of the unexpected *cough* a day of coordinator *cough*.
- Being a total psychopath. I found that on my wedding day, I was too focused on timelines and everything running smoothly. I found myself a little pissy when things weren’t going to plan. So from there, I found the nearest human being to me and asked them to get me a refreshing alcoholic beverage or ten to drown the frustration in. Side note: that’s a serious perk of being a bride, who is going to tell a bride no at her own wedding? OK- I wasn’t that frustrated but I was a little irritated. I felt like I needed to sober up and run my own damn show. I thought about a day of coordinator in advance but my mindset is “nobody can do it better than me.” Because I suck. However, those of you who are not from Indiana County, there is no such thing as a wedding planner out there. I didn’t think anyone would drive out from the ‘Burgh either, so pissy I was.
Me, with said refreshing alcoholic beverages.
There is NO other feeling in the world that compares to being engaged to the love of your life and planning the wedding of your dreams. I know how much every single detail means. I know how important every single dollar spent it. I know the time and energy you put into those 6-8 hours. Nobody understands truly what it is like to be a bride unless you have been one. I am thankful for my own wedding day in so many ways. I got a super cool husband and an even cooler extended family (shoutout to all you Moreau’s reading this). It gave me the experience of being a bride which allows me to connect to my own brides on a different level. I had a vendor not perform to the level of which we had hoped for. It caused stress and headaches for me on the wedding day, where I felt I needed to pick up the slack. That is the kind of feeling that NONE of my brides will EVER feel. I go out of my way at weddings to make sure everyone is performing to standard, and if not I gently remind them to get it in gear 🙂 Every wedding I work truly means so much to me because all of my couples are awesome. I love working with fun ppl.
Overall, being a bride that had her dream wedding was such an honor. Not only did it create ever lasting memories, but it instilled a sense of perfection in my performance for my brides. I strive to relieve my couples of every single ounce of stress on their own wedding day and be there to handle all of the unexpected things that may occur. I take great pride in going out of my way for my clients, and making sure they don’t have to do anything on their wedding day except show up, get married, and party hard.
Talk to you soon!